We have all heard of ‘The Tree of Life’ but what is it? Well really, it depends on where you look for a definition, this can be biological whereby we evolve and are connected from a common organism, it can be spiritual – creating a sense of connection to a deity or a divine purpose or mythological, through cultural links to symbols and stories. One common theme is connections, especially connections to people, places and things.
For a moment let’s focus on people. Like trees, our lives are shaped by the people who surround us. Our relationships and connections give us a sense of purpose and meaning. In care settings we are particularly vulnerable, and this grounding sense of relationships can become lost. It is important to ensure every interaction we have creates connection.
So, let’s tell a story…
There are three types of people in life: the leaf people, the branch people, and the root people.
Leaf people come into our lives for a reason or a season. They bring colour, comfort, and teach us lessons for a time, but when life’s winds begin to blow, they can drift away. We can still appreciate them, their value, their warmth and their gentle presence, but they are not necessarily permanent features in our lives. The leaf people remind us to value each connection, however brief, and to find meaning in moments that may be fleeting.
Branch people are stronger and have a stabilising influence. They help us grow, providing structure and support when we need it most. They are important and a staying presence in life. These are the people who walk alongside us for a while but may bend or even break overtime. Their presence teaches us resilience and acceptance. Branch people might be colleagues, mentors, or friends who support us through certain chapters of our lives, shaping who we are along the way.
Root people are truly special. They are the ones who stay no matter the season. They ground us. They don’t seek attention, praise, or reward, they simply hold us steady, nurturing us. When times are hard, they draw close rather than turn away. Root people are those who see beyond the circumstance, the diagnosis, or the role. They connect through love, empathy, and shared humanity. Their strength doesn’t come from what they do, but from who they are.
What kind of person are you?
We all agree that as people who work in health and social care settings our interactions are for a reason and a season, they also provide structure and stability in times of uncertainty. This is great as a foundation, but emotion focused care is grounded in kindness, compassion, and genuine connection. It’s not about ticking boxes or completing tasks. It’s about presence, creating a sense of belonging where people feel safe, valued, and seen for who they truly are.
The people who make the greatest difference are not the ones with the most recognition or status, but the ones who take the time to listen, to encourage, and to love without condition. These are the roots we need to nourish, nurture, value and support people to truly be ‘free to be me’. Because in the end, it isn’t what we ‘do’ that defines us. It’s the depth of our connections. When we choose to be someone’s roots — we help the whole forest grow stronger.
Managing Director MCM